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Different from Most Girls – Compliment or Insult? 

Too often we hear phrases like “You are different from most girls”, or “You aren’t like most girls”. In real life, but especially in media, whether it is movies or TV shows. While they may say it like it’s a compliment, what it really is is an insult to “most girls”. That’s why Hailee Steinfeld’s new single “Most Girls” matters so much to me. It doesn’t perpetrate to what the rest of the media has been telling us for years. It doesn’t pit women against one another. What it does is encouraging most women and tells us that while we may not be same, we are all best in our own ways.
 It’s true that no two people are the same. We are all different and exceptional in our own right. Every girl is unique in her own way, but to tell a girl that “You are not like other girls” is just another way of pitting women against women. And honestly, I am not here for it. I hate how media has always tried to make women be enemies of one another, whether it is to show two women fighting for one man’s affections in movies or TV Shows or to just publish articles about two actresses “cat-fighting” in the industry. It’s high time that we stop the women-hating game and start encouraging women to support each other.
I hate hearing statement like this when someone is trying to compliment a woman. You wanna compliment her? Try telling her that she’s unique, that she’s smart, that she’s intelligent, that she’s sincere. There are so many different ways to compliment a woman without turning it into a competition between other women. Because you know what? We shouldn’t be trying to women fight with each other, we shouldn’t be telling women that she can be brilliant only if she is better than other women and making it seem like women always have to be each other’s enemies. Women should be able to encourage and support other women and be aware that we always gotta have each other’s back.
Honestly, media should stop being low-key assholes and make women hate on each other in order to be “different/better than most girls”. There is a severe lack of women supporting women story lines and contents in our industry. We should all get with the program and realize that that’s what matters in today’s day and age. Women don’t want to be pitted against other women in order to be validated. And this industry needs to realize that as soon as possible and stop creating content that requires women hating each other, mostly to garner the male character’s affections. And that’s even more degrading because it seems like women have to fight in order to prove the significance and the importance of the male characters. At the end of the day, it seems like even the fighting isn’t about women, it’s about the men. And I hate that women are made out to be mere props in a men’s storyline.
“Most Girls, work hard, go far, we are unstoppable,
Most Girls, our fight to make every day, No two are the same,
I wanna be like, I wanna be like Most Girls” – Hailee Steinfeld
These words resonate deeply with me because every girl has a different story. We are all fighting our own battles every day. We work hard and we are all different. And we are all “Most Girls”. To undermine all this, undermine the fact that we are different and we all are still fabulous in our own way, just to satisfy a male’s ego deeply unsettles me. We are worth more than a men’s love interest fighting to get their attention. We are women. We are enough. And we are Most Girls.

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I'm curious by nature. "Curiosity kills the cat" was written with me in mind. (History buffs knows that's not true). I'm a helper, I want to help people however and whenever I can. I love reading. Any kind of book I can get my hands on. I'm a nerd, a geek, a fangirl, a fanatic and sometimes a freak too. I'm emotional at heart but I don't like to show it. Spread positivity and love all around guys.. !! #WomenRightsAreHumanRights

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