For a country that invented Kamasutra, we sure are a bunch of prudes when it comes to sex.
I read a story a few days back about a couple who divorced one year after their marriage, because the women was disgusted every time he touched her. We teach our daughters that sex is a disgusting, dirty thing. That it’s something to be ashamed about, but we expect them to give birth to babies as soon as possible after they get married. They do realize that babies exist because of sex, right? And how can they expect us to be suddenly okay with sex after marriage, when our whole life they have taught us to be repulsed by it. 20 something years of hearing that sex is not normal, that its something to be disgusted with, won’t help in the 180° change of us being okay with it after marriage. It most probably will only result in traumatizing a lot of us.
Forget talking about it, we hesistate to even utter the word “sex”.
We need to be more open minded. I’m not saying advertize it every chance you get, but we need to be vocal about it when it matters. Don’t teach girls to be repulsed or afraid of sex. Let them make their own decisions. Introduce sex education in schools, and I mean proper sex education, not the one where the teachers just vaguely hint at it and get it over with. Parents should be open to have the “Birds and Bees” talk with their kids, when they come of age.
We should not tell kids to not have sex, because lets face it, in today’s time, there’s no way some horny teenagers won’t be “knocking boots” somewhere, so to speak. But if we are atleast open with them, and tell them its okay to come talk to us, no matter how embarrassing it is, then atleast we can ensure that they practice safe sex and that there in mutual respect between the partners. Beacuse there is such a thing called the “Internet” that exists and that contains a heap of information that you just can’t be sure about.
We, Indians need to learn that sex is not something to be ashamed about. That consented sex between two adults is completely okay.