Recently a friend of mine commented that feminists are angry and bitter women who hate men and want everything for themselves. There seems to be a very wide misconception about what feminism is really about. Even when a lot of famous celebrities have declared themselves feminists and tried to explain what it really means. When it comes to feminism, Emma Watson is one of my true heroes. Here’s something that she once said that stuck with me: “Feminism has become an unpopular words. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men. Unattractive even.” Yes, when we declare ourselves a feminist that is what the world choose to see in us, even though feminism is so much more than this. People need to understand, that being a feminist is not being anti-men. There is nothing wrong with being strong and aggressive in our beliefs. But it’s wrong to think that its not ideal for a women to be strong and aggressive regarding anything. We women are more strong than we are given credit for. That’s what Feminism is all about. Being anything and anyone we want to be, and letting others be what they want to be, regardless of gender, caste, religion, and other social norms that divide the world.
Feminism is not just about fighting for women’s rights. It’s more than that. It’s also about the boys who are not allowed to cry because it’s considered feminine. It’s about the boys who can’t let their emotions show because that’s not manly. It’s about the girls who is only allowed in the kitchen but not allowed to work. It’s about those people who can’t a come out with their sexuality, because the world doesn’t agree with it. It’s about that couple who commits suicide or are killed for falling in love with outside of their caste. It’s about about those women who are treated as shit by men who thinks that women are below them because of their gender. It’s about those people who are considered “other” because the world only believes in two genders. Feminism is not just about a woman. Feminism is not just about their fight for equality. It’s about everyone’s right. Their right to be and feel what they want.
People say there isn’t any need for feminism. But that’s not true. As Emma Watson said, there will be a need for feminism as long as the world doesn’t accept the fact that gender is a spectrum and not two sets of opposing ideals. There will be a need for feminism as long as women are blamed for getting raped. There will be a need for feminism as long as people are killed for being black. There will be a need for feminism as long as the world doesn’t consider that above all everyone is human first. That’s what should matter. Humanity. Not a person’s color, or their gender or their sexuality.
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And yes, I’m a Feminist and I don’t hate men.